Your Friend or Your Lover?

Have you ever heard that your lover can be your best friend? Or maybe your best friend can be your lover? Let's be real. How many of us have best friends that you want to go out with? Now it is rare because you cannot imagine going out with someone that you have a different relation with.

You want to make it clear about the definition of a friend. What is a friend? A true friend is something that is rare and that you do not have many of. The time you spend with them are effortless. There is no JEALOUSY and GOSSIP!!

Now if you are struggling with someone you do not know if they are your friend or lover, or both, you can tell with compatibility and where you stand.

First you have to ask yourself this:

1.) Am I attracted to him/her?

Attraction goes long ways. You want to be attracted to that person in order for you to start something because without attraction, there really is no interest for you to start a relationship. The real question comes: Are you really attracted to this person?

Attraction can come from many things. Most of it comes from appearances. We want someone that looks up to our standards and have an appealing unique look. Some of the attraction comes from personality. People sometimes can look or learn how to look past appearances in order to see the real person behind the mask. We want attraction, we want something that is called the "chase." The chase is something we want to refer as something worth spending time with and knowing the worth of someone. Sometimes this definition can be miscomprehended.

Now I am not talking about sexual attraction. If you are sexual attracted to someone, then you are in it for the wrong reasons. You do not want to start with sex in a relationship.

Second, you have to ask yourself:

2.) Do I get jealous of him/her sometimes?

Jealous meaning in this case, do you get jealous of him/her going out with the opposite sex? Are you, or are you not? If you are, there is a chance you might see this person and perceive him/her the other way. Friends to do not get jealous of other true friends, which makes them classified as friends.

And last but not least:

3.) Is your time spent with them effortless?

You do not have to do much these days to have a friend. If you have a friend paying for your tap to go out to eat, or planning and paying to go to the movies, then there is a chance your friend might be looking at you in a different way.

It is truly effortless to have a friend and like I said before, you do not have to do much. Rather it be hanging out or going out with other friends, you are classified as friends. Sometimes friends can be come lover because we want someone that has friendship qualities but also significant other compatibility.

The bad thing about that is, the RISK. You cannot have both friend and lover. Does not make sense. Some people think its okay to say "oh you are my